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 “We are born alone, we live alone and we die alone. Only through our love and friendships, we create the illusion for the moment”- Orson Welles.
We all have felt lonely sometime or the other. It could have been when a friends forgot to call us over, when they enjoyed or when the people we connect with are busy in their work and other commitments. Someone may feel lonely, waiting for that “special one” in life.
In loneliness there is a vacuum or emptiness that follows a person everywhere. It is like an isolation, a heartache and a pining for companionship. One can feel lonely even in a crowd. Loneliness is an unwanted sickness. Insomnia, memories pain and tears are its side effects.
It is like a song ringing in your head which you want to turn off but can’t!
Why “lonely”, why not “alone”?
It is matter of a perspective.
Being alone is a choice.It is a place to be. It is empowering.No doubt, many times, being alone crosses paths with being lonely.
It gives one freedom to do what one wants. It has sanity.  From being lonely to being alone is a brave journey.
Virginia Wolf said “Alone I fall down into nothingness. I push my foot sleathily lest I should fall off the edge of the world into nothingness.”
Enjoy the solitude whenever possible, as it is rooted in peace. Funny thing is, once you start feeling happy alone, everyone else wants to be with you!

Banyan tree Sector 17 Chandigarh

Home is a symbol of peace and comfort. We struggle to look for peace and comfort in places, in things and in people.  We invent an image around us that defines us, as to who we are.  Every action we take and every move we make is governed by that self image we want to project to the world. Our expectation of how people should perceive us is very important to us.  It is that decides, if consider ourselves to be happy or sad, successful or not,  famous or infamous.
However, our personality actually is the product of our mental conditioning as done by our environment and society. We get carried away by the assumptions and presumptions and believe them to be true. Layers and veils of societal expectations and pressure hides beneath, the personality we are! We ourselves do not realize who we are.
Many people find it difficult to answer to the question “who am I?” Beyond the name,  designation, profession and role (mother, father, etc.), it becomes difficult to identify oneself with.
What is my “authentic self”?  This is something which most people on the planet do not even think about.
When I came across this term in Robin Sharma’s book, The Secret Letters which I am re-reading after about 4 years, I found myself contemplating on it.
As I contemplated on “authentic self”, various thoughts crossed my mind.  If being a woman, teacher and mother is my identity then how is it different from the millions of other people on earth?  Then how am I unique or even authentic? To live an authentic life requires a lot of courage.  Courage to accept our fears and our weaknesses, to explore our talents, dreams and desires. To accept failure and dejection.  To be comfortable with who we are.   To try to manifest our goals to reality.  Yet, the most important part is to be honest only for ourselves and not to validate the projected self-image. In living an authentic life we give power to our soul to grow.  We accept our weaknesses, transform them and evolve.
It brings out the fact that life is all about “the journey of  becoming!” It is not about reaching a destination or achieving milestones. It is about shedding the veils and letting go of what we are not. The comfort of home is thus not in places, people or things it is in becoming who we are supposed to be….
The home is within! 

If life is a mirror, the reflections I see.
In whatever you do, how do I see me?

If life is a prism, the rainbow I see.
There are seven colours, which one is me?

If time is eternal, an endless infinity…
Our souls must have met in an other reality!

  (#musing @thehealinghub_ )

Wishing for Joy  in New Year…
Joy is a source of alignment of our heart, mind, souls and spirit. It is a natural incense that spreads fragrance. It’s God’s reflection in his creation and in us. Joy can ignite the fire of transformation and creativity. May the joy in our hearts ever increase. May it take us to a deeper level of soul consciousness.
Wishing all a
Joyful and Enlightning 2019!
♥
Monika Kathuria